When a baby is born, so is a mother
Birth Processing
Birth Processing offers you the time and space to gently reflect on your birth experience, helping you move forward into parenthood with greater support, clarity and wellbeing.
I provide a calm, confidential space for deep listening — where you can ask questions about what happened during your birth, make sense of your experience, and use creative, reflective tools to support your transition into parenthood.
Why it matters
The transition into parenthood can be challenging, especially if your birth was difficult, unexpected, or felt out of your control.
Rates of perinatal trauma are rising. Many women experience complications during labour that lead to sudden or emergency situations, which can be frightening and disorientating. Some people feel unheard or unsupported at critical moments, and in some cases mistakes or near misses may have occurred.
While NHS trusts offer formal processes such as debriefs or complaints procedures, many parents find they need a compassionate space to talk things through in a neutral, non-clinical setting.
A traumatic or unresolved birth experience can leave lingering feelings of confusion, guilt, distress, sadness, regret, pain, anxiety, and shame. Reflecting on your birth can help you explore these feelings without fear of judgement and begin to make sense of your story.
My approach
I see this work as a vital part of my role as a midwife. The word midwife means “to be with woman,” yet postnatal care is often where support falls away. I am passionate about changing that narrative and offering care that extends beyond birth itself.
My approach is informed by:
More than 10 years working in the NHS
Master's-level training in Applied Counselling for Healthcare
Yoga-based practices that cultivate self-connection and clarity
Holding and being held in Women's Circles
Continuing professional development with Make Birth Better
As a midwife, I hold space for the full spectrum of emotions that can arise around birth and take care to recognise where experiences may have deviated from the expected — during pregnancy, labour or in the postnatal period.
I am not a therapist, but I can help you understand what happened during your birth and identify any additional mental health or community support that may benefit you in the short, medium and long term.
When to reach out
I encourage couples to consider reflecting on their birth experience at some point in the early postnatal months. However, it is never “too late” to reflect on your birth and it can be valuable at any time. This service can also benefit couples accessing NHS birth debriefing - either in advance or following support from their existing healthcare providers.
Some people — including partners — are experiencing perinatal trauma but do not realise until weeks or months after their birth, often once contact with healthcare professionals has reduced. Sadly, mild to moderate perinatal trauma frequently goes undiagnosed or untreated and may be mistaken for depression, anxiety, or exhaustion.
I will always be clear about how I can support you within the scope of my role and when alternative or additional care is more appropriate.
Wherever you are in your journey, I am here to offer a soft landing - an intentional space where your story can be heard and validated.
What's the investment?
A Birth Processing session lasts 1 hour and can be done in person or online via Zoom. If being in nature feels more appealing, I am also happy to "walk and talk".
At your home (South London) £75
Online £60
Follow-ups £50
If cost is a barrier, please get in touch and we'll find a way!
If you can afford more, then please 'pay it forward'. This enables me to work with people who wouldn't otherwise be able to access personalised midwifery.
"Tamsyn is incredibly kind, calm and grounded, giving her an amazing ability to steady those around her. She held space for me to explore my feelings and experiences openly." Harriet
"Thank you again for all your help. I saw the perinatal psychiatrist and she was very helpful. I felt like you truly cared about my wellbeing and you helped me, for which I am truly grateful." Staci
Movement for Birth